Hi Robbie68.  I've been fighting it for almost 3 years now and have had mixed experiences with doctors.  Appointments are short, and it can feel like they just don't have time for you, especially when treatments don't seem to be going well.   I have a support group and we got a radiation oncologist give a presentation to us.  The subject of 2nd opinions came up.  One of the guys asked him how they feel if a patient goes and gets a 2nd opinion.  He said they encourage it, as they just want patients to feel like they are getting the best possible treatment.  While it sounded a little like 'just giving the right answer' to my more cynical mind, he seemed genuine.  I had that in mind when I went and got a 2nd opinion, just because i felt I just needed to hear someone else's view. I think it's just so important to have someone you trust and feel like are working with you and your husband.  I totally get that feeling of not wanting to upset or insult anyone by asking for a 2nd opinion.  I actually arranged mine through my GP, so my oncologist wasn't aware I did it.  I just felt it was now or never and decided to pay to see someone privately to review my case.  But from everything I've been told, it's not an issue to get a 2nd opinion and there's no personal offense taken.  it's our right to feel comfortable with our medical professionals, especially when the stakes are so high. So as I said, I can totally understand your husband's reluctance, but us mean can be stubborn at times... so maybe some gentle prodding or persuasion can help.  My partner actually convinced me to get a 2nd opinion, so part of my decision was to reduce the stress on her.  Personally, I think it will be a huge mental relief for your husband if he does get the 2nd opinion.  If only just for some confidence and clarity about his ongoing care. ... View more

Hi Barrie.  Sorry to hear your PC has returned.  Mine was classed as stage3 with spread to local lymph nodes so I would think yours would be classified the same as long as it hasn't been detected spreading any further.  I recently had a bunch of scans, CT, bone, PET because of a rapidly riding PSA and none showed any spread to bones or other areas so i'm still stage 3 for now and started on Darolutamide 5 weeks ago to lower it and hopefully keep it low for as long as possible.    As far as being curable goes, I was told that once it's left the prostate, a cure isn't possible, more a case of stopping it growing for as long as possible, ideally at an undetectable level.  This is my understanding anyway.  I hope you get a good result coming up after your radiation. ... View more