Hi Angelicyang, I too am gay and my partner of 18yrs has been fighting ovarian cancer for two years. These past months have seen her getting sicker and sicker, not able to keep food down. In and our of hospital. It is hard, damn hard. I don't think it matters how long you have been with a person, love is love. You will need alot of courage to help her and especially when you have to say goodbye. You need to understand, at this stage there is nothing to do but be there for her. I don't know how anyone could face this illness and death alone. You would do this for a friend, why not a girlfriend. In the end, when she is gone, you will be able to look at yourslf in the mirror and know you did the best you could and she had an angel by her side through the journey. Good luck, it is tough,ignore the others, do what you heart says. ... View more

I think anger is a necessary stage in the whole cancer journey. My partner has ovarian cancer that is not curable and has been haveing different types of chemo since 2010. Now on to round three. I have been angry for almost 12 months - what do i have to look forward to, i have lost my future, my whole life has become focused on the illness and I know I will lose my partner. So about a month ago I got sick of being so miserable and finally listened to what my friends had been saying. You cannot control what will happen and death will be the end result. But if this is your focus then all you will have is misery. You need to surrender and live for what you can get out of life now. And trust that fate/life/god will give you a way through and the strength to carry on. As for what your husband is feeling - it seems he has lost all his power over the situation and anger is the only power he has left. Perhaps wind back on the suggestions of what he should do and just let him know that you will be there for him and support him no matter what treatment he decides/or not to take. Suggest he calls the cancer helpline and talk to the phone counsellors. It helps to talk to someone not involved in your situation and they do not judge you but only provide support. This is the toughest thing you will ever have to handle in your life. Hope these comments help ... View more

I think anger is a necessary stage in the whole cancer journey. My partner has ovarian cancer that is not curable and has been haveing different types of chemo since 2010. Now on to round three. I have been angry for almost 12 months - what do i have to look forward to, i have lost my future, my whole life has become focused on the illness and I know I will lose my partner. So about a month ago I got sick of being so miserable and finally listened to what my friends had been saying. You cannot control what will happen and death will be the end result. But if this is your focus then all you will have is misery. You need to surrender and live for what you can get out of life now. And trust that fate/life/god will give you a way through and the strength to carry on. As for what your husband is feeling - it seems he has lost all his power over the situation and anger is the only power he has left. Perhaps wind back on the suggestions of what he should do and just let him know that you will be there for him and support him no matter what treatment he decides/or not to take. Suggest he calls the cancer helpline and talk to the phone counsellors. It helps to talk to someone not involved in your situation and they do not judge you but only provide support. This is the toughest thing you will ever have to handle in your life. Hope these comments help ... View more