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Re: How much info should be given to children?

by in Coping with a loved one's cancer
February 2011
February 2011
Thank you both very much for your replies. I don't think I explained myself very well, I'm not denying any time at all. At the moment, we're (his wife and I) shielding them in the way of, he's not feeling very well today so no visits type way. My concern is that by doing this, they're not getting to really understand that he is actually very sick. I am going to talk to my kids and as you say, be guided by them as to whether they wish to see him when he is ill. I am being honest in terms of telling them he is sick and I have gotten them literature from the cancer council etc. We have not discussed death or even the possibility of death, only that he is unwell and will hopefully get better. He has cancer in the esophagus metastasized in the neck I believe. Thank you once again for your replies, I appreciate them! Mel ... View more

How much info should be given to children?

by in Coping with a loved one's cancer
February 2011
February 2011
Hi there, I am currently struggling with knowing what and how much information I should be giving to my kids (18, 16, 12) and letting them see. My ex - their father - has cancer and is currently undergoing chemo. They see him each 2nd weekend and are what I would consider close to him. Up until recently its pretty much been business as usual so they haven't really felt any effects of cancer and chemo etc. He is now getting quite ill though and I'm unsure if I should be protecting them and keeping away from when him when he is sick, or if they should be seeing him ill so they understand better? Everything I have read says honesty is the best policy and they should be part of things etc. If things continue to go downhill, I don't want them to be shocked or surprised, but prepared as best they can be. Anyone have any advise or experience etc? Thanks! ... View more
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