I am seeing the GP this arvo and he is terrific. He has stressed that everything you (and I) are going through is very normal and you do work your way through it. It sounds a bit pat but it has been the common message I have been getting. Medication might be a good option here. My wife went through it with her mother many years ago and she said that it was a roller coaster ride. At least my specialist and another GP has reinforced the developments in treatments especially in recent times. It is the waiting that is the hardest part but once a plan of attack is set up, hopefully things get better. In your case, it sounds like you might be jumping too many steps ahead. Worry about what you know first and foremost. As far as your fiancé goes, she has to face up to her own fears as well. Over time, she and you will hopefully be more in sync with how these types of situations are handled. Have you tried ringing the counselling service? I talked to them yesterday and they were very good. They are all oncology nurses who are experienced in what you are talking about. The number is 13 11 20. Good luck with it all. ... View more

I'm struggling so much at the moment. I have heard that once you know the details and treatment starts it does get easier. The problem is I can't get myself to the point of being positive. I am a real problem for my family and they are at their wits end. ... View more