Dear Tiki, Firstly I want to say how sorry I am about the passing of your grandfather. I lost my father in Feb this year to throat cancer, I am devastated, my dad was admitted to hospital in Sept 2011 for a total laryngectomy & he was to come home after 14 days, things did not go as planned as the cancer was aggressive.... from Sept to Feb we only managed to get dad home for 3 nights. Ifind myself reliving events that happened in the hospital & some nights I cry for hours, I cannot get those images out of my head, the first thing people say to me is "his not suffering now" how the hell can they say that to me, it really drives me mad, I know his not suffering because his not here !!! I want him back but I want him back without that rotten cancer. I was approached by a friend of dads last Saturday & this person was so horrible she actually asked me how I could let the dr's "hack my father up" I was numb, I was lost for words, I did not allow anyone to hurt my dad... people need to shut up... nobody knows what its like to see someone you love battle this disease & unless they have travelled the path they should shut up. Sorry for venting but I can honestly say that I know what your going thru & I send big (((HUGS))) & lots of strength to you. Alison xxx
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