Well few weeks ago my husband had what they called a mild stroke, they couldn't find the cause but then after doing some scans & test they found what they said was lesions on his lungs. More test and it come down to the fact he had testicular cancer and it had spread to his lungs. Basically the doctor said his body smart and gave him a warning that he was not well. They have set up 3 months of chemo starting tomorrow. We decided be best if he stays at his parents while getting treatment. (we both 35 we have 3 primary school kids and I work full-time) His mum has retired (his dad still works) she has the time to get him to appointments and look after him I have no choice but to work now as I am the only one with the income as his work has been put on hold for now. (has not been there long only 4 mths so does not have much in holiday or sick leave to cover the next few months - and my self same only been at my job 6 mths same situation) But he will come home in-between cycles and/or when he feels better (he only 15 min drive away) So I will be playing single mum role in the middle of all of this, but we think its is the best option for getting him better and not putting too much on the children either. The other factor is he suffer depression, I would say it was not too bad but have found out that for a long time he has been in a pretty dark place that he has been hiding from myself. I know it common for people to get depression when going through treatment but what about those that already have depression even before getting diagnosed or treatment? He does not see a regular psychologist etc, something I should of push months ago but didn't but I am sure there some sort of help he can access while going through this? I am very worried about his mental health when the treatment really starts to affect him. Hopefully someone can provided me with some help there, I know its going to be rough road ahead big strain on our relationship I am sure. I have always been the stronger one in our relationship he always does lean on me, just hope I can this time. I don't have much support from my own family so can make it hard at times, but his family are wonderful people. And to top it all of we have to move as the house we in are selling and only I can do it.. going to be crazy times ahead. ... View more