This is my first post on these boards.
My sister has given me a lot of grief with her reactions - or lack of them - in recent years.
When my husband was thought to have only a few weeks to live last August her lack of concern and her criticism of me was very hurtful, as well as being inappropriate.
Her husband and daughter did not want to intervene, saying it was between me and her.
Two psychologists (one last year) and one recently have told me that some people avoid dealing with grief issues.It reflects their own mortality and their husband's mortality.
Knowing that at least gives an explanation of why some people can be so mean-spirited. Basically, it's all about them.
See an oncology psychologist if you can. They are brilliant. Ordinary psychologists have no idea where carers of cancer patients are coming from in my experience...saw two who were maybe fooled by my seeming sanity and normal appearance.
We're now living on the Central Coast near Gosford and I wish there was a carer's group locally so I could have a whinge with others in the same boat - caring for someone who is only now being offered supportive care. I'd be happy to whinge online too and share stories with anyone who needs that occasional whinge.
I feel very lonely sometimes in dealing with this because so few people understand about blood cancers and the disease process. My husband was diagnosed with AML in February 2009, has had two relapses - and maybe a third relapse happening now - plus was diagnosed with multiple myeloma last June. (MM now seems to be in remission). A rare combination of blood cancers and his specialist here thinks his bone marrow is very weak because of so much chemo.
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