Hello Maz47, how are you today? my name is Maggie, last year I had a 11cm malignant tumor on my pelvis and I had it removed along with all of my girly bits and I had an ileostomy as they damaged my large bowel along the way, I had radiation, but in April the cancer metastasized to my liver and lungs and 13 weeks ago, the doctors told me I had 12 weeks to live so I have had a weeks grace, so far,I am currently on chemo and I know how you feel, try not to worry the best thing to do is to get to know your stoma nurse, she is the one who can help you with products, it is important to be comfortable and feel confident, it is very scary I know but you are stronger than you think, I also found this site to be extremely helpful http://www.healingwell.com/ I go here quite often, it is a very supportive site, you can email me maggietaylor@live.com.au if you like I love to chat and listen, good luck honey and take care. ... View more