My dad was diagnosed with high grade invasive carcinoma of the bladder 06/08 and had surgery 09/08. the tests revealed papillary cells and has spread into the lymph nodes. the doctor has not stated the severity of the cancer in the lymph nodes yet but has taken this case to a tumor board which I know means it is malignant. he has complications with blood clots in his legs and an enlarged aortic root at 4.7 cm, which requires reconstructive surgery at 5cm. he also has epilepsy.  with his surgery he received a stoma instead of re-constructing his bladder. I know the outlook is grim and am trying to come to terms with it. What I want to know is how long do I have left to spend time with my dad? ... View more