Lisa.. my dad lost his battle with bowel cancer on the 11/12/2012.. he battled for 2.5years.. the last stages of his cancer he deteriorated very quickly. My advice to you is just be there with him.. talk to him.. whether or not he knows you are there and care for him..dont worry about the wife.. not important... no one can stop you seeing your dad.. just be with him and cherish every moment.. my dad passed away only 58 years old and being with my mum since they were 14.. and i am one of 5 girls.. so it was a little strange trying to get time with dad before he did pass.. but again.. just be there .. talk to him.. tell him what you are doing.. etc.. since dad funeral.. i still go visit and talk.. its going to be a tough time ahead.. prayers and thoughts with you.. xx ... View more