Teresa, Thank you so much for your entry, I must admit I gave a giggle. Hubby failed to see the humour but I feel he is much like your dad in the earlier times. It definitely seems to be the cancer that doesn't like to disappear in a hurry. Gary hates the catheter and this seems at times to be our biggest battle as every time he is in hospital he has to have one. The constant pain when urinating is the other biggie he walks around aimlessly after going holding his pelvic area and squinting because of it. He hesitates to drink as he is frightened to go the toilet, and when he does he moves as fast as he can. Now he is saying enough is enough and is shunning the idea of doing the chemo, as he feels it gives no guarantee. I'm at wits end in what to do or say as he is the one who is going through so much. Hopefully in the next week or so he changes his mind as he is due to start chemo on the 27th. I loved your reply and hope we keep up this communication, you are the first we have had that is similar to my hubbies. Cheers Anne ... View more

Hi Mabelleigh, I just red your post and thought you may find this info useful. The American Bladder Cancer Society at http://bladdercancersupport.org runs a big and very active bladder cancer community forum. You can find it via their home page or this direct link may work http://bladdercancersupport.org/bladder-cancer-forum Ed. ... View more