I am so sorry for your loss, you must be completely devastated. My heart goes out to you. I cant imagine what its like to go through cancer. I did lose my sister and nephew in a car accident twelve years ago, so I do know what grief is like. It gets easier over time, but it does take a lot of time. So just allow yourself to grieve and dont worry about anything else.
I think it would be hard watching someone you love suffer. I cant imagine how people get through this. I'm watching my friend falling to pieces, she used to be one of the strongest people I knew. Now she is really sad. Its horrible to see.
I will be there for her and help her as much as I can. Her husband actually likes going away, he is still active, he hasn't got to the real bad state yet, but although he is in lots of pain and does struggle with that, and has a lot of real bad days he has some good ones too. They have a camper trailer and go away camping. I think she is struggling with the being his carer thing already, but she wont get help, she just says hes her husband she will look after him.
I'm hoping that when he gets too bad she will realize she needs help.
Thank you for your suggestions, and once again, my heart goes out to you and I hope that your pain eases soon. I am always here if you need to talk.
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So you know Adelaide then. Thanks for the reply again,, so sad that people have to suffer, especially good people like your mum. I am going to keep researching on the internet, and if I find something I might even share it on this page for other people.
I was thinking about doing a fundraiser or something to send them away. Its a good idea.
I really hope your mum gets well and I wish you all the love and support while you go through this with her. I'm always here if you need to chat. 🙂
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thank you so much for your reply, and I am so sorry to hear about you mum. Cancer is so cruel 😞 That place sounds great. I am in SA but they may not mind traveling there. I think when people are going through Cancer, they need things like this to lift their spirits, because life is hard enough without being so sad all the time, especially with knowing your going to pass away a lot sooner, and the friends and families suffering along with them.
I wish you and your family well and thank you once again for your help.
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Hi to you all,
I just want to introduce myself. My name is Kylie. I joined this page because a really good friend of mine is going through hell. She lost her mum a year ago from cancer, and today is the anniversary of the funeral. She is also a full time carer for her husband who is also dying from cancer. He is in a bad way.
I feel so bad for her. Shes still grieving her mum a lot, but has to be strong for her husband, who needs her. She feels that she can not let herself show her pain because everyone needs her. Her husband is up several times a night in pain so she gets no sleep. She is reasonably strong although all she goes through. I know inside she is a mess.
I just would like to ask if anyone has any suggestions of any charities that offer help for families who are going through cancer. She is too ashamed to ask for help, this is why I think she needs a friend to try do something. I would like to see her and her husband have a nice holiday or something before he passes away. I just want to do something nice for her. I just cant seem to find anything. I find lots of places that help children who have cancer and even breast cancer patients, but not just general patients.
I think it would be so nice for her to have a break or something. I just don't know where to start. She is an amazing person. She just struggles through, even though I know its killing her, she said she has no choice. Shes been going through this for four years now, with no relief and then losing her mum a year ago,, she has come to my house and broken down today, I think its really starting to take its toll on her. I feel so helpless, I can see how much she is suffering but I don't know how to help.
If anyone can suggest anything that would be great.
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