Dad passed away last night. It was actually like what people say - it was peaceful. We were all there in his room and his breathing stopped and he turned white. I tried to find a nurse and when I came back to the room he breathed again. I got the nurse. He took his last breath and she took his pulse. He was gone. I'm so sad. But I'm glad he's not lying there anymore. But part of me doesn't believe it. I miss him already. ... View more

Well today was a very painful day. Dad has been put on the infusion. His feet are turning purple and he has been in alot of pain. It's so so awful to see. His consciousness has gone and is breathing is in gasps kinda. He keeps rubbing at his nose. His mouth is red and bloody. His eyes roll back. This is so cruel. I hate it. I feel guilty for not sleeping at the hospital. ... View more

Hi everyone, Im new to this forum as are the other new posters I guess. My Dad is currently at the end of his life but I have no idea how long he has to go. It's horrific watching him die. He had melanoma removed from his head in 2011. It was not taken very seriously - no radiotherapy or chemo - just removed. In Novemeber last year he found a lump under his arm. By early Decemeber we found he had cancer everywhere. Lungs, Liver, limphnodes etc. We were told he had 3-6 months. I was engaged and decided to move the wedding forward several years to Feburary so that Dad could be there. He was still in pretty great health. They tried some radiotherapy and chemo. After his third chemo we were told he did not respond. This was late March. I don't want him to suffer any more :-( ... View more

My Dad is in the final stages of melanoma cancer. It's aweful. I am upset about so many things. There is no information or support about anything! Since he lives in the country there are no hospices. Im sick of driving 2 hours to see him every couple of days and then drive home again. (selfish I know - but im totally exhausted) I hate that he is unhappy. He can barely speak anymore and went into hospital two weeks ago ready to die. Things have only gotten worse since then. The doctors keep giving us different life expectancys..... He stopped eating partially months ago and for the last 3 weeks will only eat a mouthful of food at best. Doctors said on March 26 he had only 2-3 weeks left. Then on 18th April again less than two weeks left. Then on 19th April 4-6 weeks (different doctor). I hate being so far away from my family. ALL I do at the moment is work, sleep or drive to the country where he is. My family get to do their daily business and visit when its convenient. Its so much harder for me. People think I shouldnt want him to die - but its not him anymore!!! He lies in bed sleeping and can get the energy to whispher a couple of words at best. It's aweful. He always said before he was sick - he didn't want to be lying in a bed incapasitated. But he is .... and there's nothing we can do. He asked me on Monday if I knew what the sparkly thing is? I have no idea and just wish I could tell him to make him happy. ... View more

My Dad is in the final stages of melanoma cancer. It's aweful. I am upset about so many things. There is no information or support about anything! Since he lives in the country there are no hospices. Im sick of driving 2 hours to see him every couple of days and then drive home again. (selfish I know - but im totally exhausted) I hate that he is unhappy. He can barely speak anymore and went into hospital two weeks ago ready to die. Things have only gotten worse since then. The doctors keep giving us different life expectancys..... He stopped eating partially months ago and for the last 3 weeks will only eat a mouthful of food at best. Doctors said on March 26 he had only 2-3 weeks left. Then on 18th April again less than two weeks left. Then on 19th April 4-6 weeks (different doctor). I hate being so far away from my family. ALL I do at the moment is work, sleep or drive to the country where he is. My family get to do their daily business and visit when its convenient. Its so much harder for me. People think I shouldnt want him to die - but its not him anymore!!! He lies in bed sleeping and can get the energy to whispher a couple of words at best. It's aweful. He always said before he was sick - he didn't want to be lying in a bed incapasitated. But he is .... and there's nothing we can do. He asked me on Monday if I knew what the sparkly thing is? I have no idea and just wish I could tell him to make him happy. ... View more