Hello everyone I too am new here and I also am caring for my husband who has stage 4 bowel cancer, I'm so lost as he will not admit he is even sick. 2 years ago he was diagnosed with bowel cancer and they removed the tumour and we did the chemo and all was going well we even got a all clear from the doctor then on a general check up the doctor felt something wrong and sent him for a scan which showed another tumour near his kidney, they removed most of it but couldn't get the rest of it without damaging his kidney. later I was told they opened and closed him the original operation was a serious one as they thought his bowel had ruptured but actually what had happened was the tumour had ruptured and been leaking into his body the whole time, so when they opened him the second time they took the tumour but it was too late the cancer had taken over and spread over his stomach every day I wonder what am I going to do without him, what’s going to happen and how will we cope He’s doing chemo and handling it ok but I can see little things no one else can he’s tired and sick and won’t tell me he’s in pain and I catch him rubbing his belly and when I ask are you in pain he says no just annoying pain but he won’t take pain relief I’m so lost and feel very alone and this site is the only place I feel I can be as every here knows the pain of watching someone they love battle this ugly ugly disease anyway thanks for letting me vent ... View more