Hi My partner of ten years has prostate cancer, He has been treated with Eligard hormone treatment following radiotherapy and it has changed who he is. Its ended our relationship as a normal relationship and there is no support, no-one gets it I am just accused of being selfish by him, because he is now effectively both emotionally and physically neutered and cannot understand what has changed. We didn't have much common ground before in terms of interests etc but now there is no common ground, we went to a so called relationship councilor at relationships Australia who just declared we didn't have much hope in the first session, so gave that a miss, as I could see he wasn't going to give us any assistance. We had a bond that was based on intimacy, now its gone, I am alone and can't speak to anyone about it because I am accused of being self centred. My partner doesn't care he hasn't lost something he still needs, he is filling his life up with new male orientated hobbies and interests that don't include or interest me or that has anything in which i feel welcome to participate in. I can't even socialise with my fiends I am so paralyzed with grief and loneliness that no-one understands. My partner has accessed various support resources but none of those are available to me. We asked to be put in touch with support groups 3 years ago, it never happened, no-one gave us any contact information despite asking for it, now its pretty much too late, Our relationship has pretty much broken down completely we just live in the same house, I cant enjoy anything with him because I know its all just a chore for him and any affection is just a token gesture to placate me. He spoke to some nurse and came home with a range of brochures on erectile disfunction to which I just responded they may as well provide you with a knitting machine as having the mechanical means to function wont actually make him interested in doing so anymore than he would be interested in taking up knitting! The doctor gave him viagra tablets but he wouldn't bother taking them because he has no interest in doing so, He would sit up in front of the TV till all hours of the morning and fall asleep there rather than come and lie next to me in our bed so the tablets are a useless waste of money and the intimacy and the connection are gone and I am just going through each day to survive I go to work I pay the bills I clean the house and look after all his affairs so that he can have his life and enjoy it and I go with him to events I have to go too, and pretend for the sake of everyone else and dread any event in which I have to pretend I am his partner just to make everyone else happy and then I cry myself to sleep most nights. I don't know where to turn or who to talk too. Some may think me selfish and self centred, because he is the one with cancer but he is now technically in remission and I am alone. ... View more