I can understand where your coming from. I am the cancer sufferer and my partner has not been supportive. It is a difficult and lonely time doing this on your own. For you it's the other side and intimacy is important in a relationship. For me I have found that taking the time to focus on me has helped. Stop trying to rescue your partner you need to focus on healing you first. You have been through a lot, you may not have gone through the cancer but you have gone though every step with him. He has found ways to get involved in life maybe it's time you did. I have found that complementry therapy has helped me release a lot of my issues, eg meditation and self healing. Until we heal ourselves its hard to expect anything from those around us. In the meantime sending you a big hug :-) ... View more