Thanks so much Tropical, Im just finding that with no experience at all with this kind of situation we are all at sea and quite frankly frightened. We are all desperately trying to do the right thing but its very difficult, they have been together for so long just the thought of losing her husband would be just unimaginable. I guess we thought that we didn't want to rob her of the chance to say her goodbyes at her own pace? Thank you so much for your fantastic advice. Im so sorry to hear about your husband. Losing him at 52, I can't even begin to comprehend the pain and anguish of what what you have all been through. The fact that you have taken the time to sit down and help us when you have been through so much already, has touched me deeply. Thank you Tropical and God Bless ... View more