September 2013
Hi lecoll. Thanks for your msg. Tht sounds hard for you to not be able to rest at home. It is hard to always be positive and people telling you to stay positive especially when the prognosis is so bleak. My thoughts and prayers are with you for your husband. I feel like I'm in a nightmare too, we just take each day as it comes
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September 2013
Thanks Emily. Just writing that and getting it out helped alot and it's nice to know people care and are there.
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September 2013
Hi meaghan, That's sad news to hear that your dad is in hospital. I hope he fights through it ok and you take care of yourself in this tough time. My dad is going into round 2 this week, he hasn't has his bloods yet but seems to be fine. He says he's actually feeling better, I'm hoping the chemo will work. Hope that with your dad in hospital he's in the right place getting the best care he needs right now.
I'm ok today. I was feeling very sad on the weekend. I also have 2 older brothers one has mental health issues, major depression and doesn't work and the other has learning difficulties and works but needs care too. Dad is providing the majority of this care now, and I will step in if dad isn't feeling up to it, which is a bit of extra pressure. So far so good on the chemo... He has a scan in 5 or 6 weeks to see if it's working. If I get on with my life I sometimes feel guilty like should I be spending more time with him or doing more for him.. But I'm doing the best I can. And working too.
I've seen a counsellor 3 times so far which helps. Also if i'm feeling really sad I try to distract myself with a funny movie, and I'm walking every day to keep my mind clear and I do yoga once a week. I have so much worry the counsellor has said to tell myself to have a day off from worry, sounds funny but I'm gonna try and give it a go. Just to shut off all the thoughts about what ifs, and the uncertainty.
I hope you have found some good coping mechanisms too, it's such a hard time.
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September 2013
I am not new to cancer as my mum died 8 years ago from leukaemia and now my dad has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, it has brought up a lot of grief and sadness again. He is in his 3rd week of chemo, and I am his next of kin and only carer. I have 2 brothers that are older but need care too. He is their carer, so I guess I will be their carer too one day.
I am also fighting with my boyfriend because I don't feel like doing anything except lying in bed and visiting my dad in between work. He wants me to face my fears and go out in public like normal but I just don't feel like it. When I have done, to try and please him, I can feel a panic attack starting and my anxiety levels are so high I just want to run home and hide, and I have done this twice now. He thinks I shouldn't run away and gets upset with me, but is it ok right now with all my grief and sadness?
I feel like I am pushing my boyfriend away because I only have attention for myself and my dad at the moment. But I feel like these are the only things that matter right now.
I am also finding it hard to care for my dad because he has always been so independent he pushes me away. We don't even say I love you to each other. I'm scared that we won't get to say this before it is too late. Even though his diagnosis is terminal, in that he has 3 months or 3 years depending on the chemo working, he says he is feeling fine and actually good after 3 weeks of chemo. Is he in denial?
I am confused of my feelings, as I am feeling negative and not like socialising, and my dad is positive. Perhaps I should feel positive and live my life as if there is no cancer in my family. I don't know how to talk to people at the moment and feel like I don't really want to hear happy stories or their menial complaints about their life. I am also not telling everyone at work because I don't want everyone to ask me all the time, if my dad is ok. Is this normal or should I be forcing myself to socialise and act "normal"?
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September 2013
Hi Meaghan my dad has lung cancer and has just finished his first cycle of chemo, which is the third week where he has a week off. I feel for you and hope you are coping ok. It is hard to be a carer and also have a life. At the moment I don't feel like talking to anyone and keep trying to avoid social situations. How are you feeling?
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September 2013
Hi I am Sophie. My dad has terminal lung cancer and has just finished his first cycle of chemo. He has 6 more to go and a scan in 5 weeks to see if its working. I am his next of kin and main carer as he has no one else. It would be good to talk to others in the same situation.
thanks
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