Hi my husband of 37 years was diognoised with a brain tumor 5 years ago, he had as much of his frontal lobe removed and had 6 weeks radiation. We got through that well and he had changed but at the time it looked like I might get most of him back. Just over a year later when he had just been cleared to go back to work he had a stroke. He spend 3 months in rehab learning to walk, which he does to a fashion, his speech is good and he can eat and do his own personal care but his right arm is pretty useless. And he is just so different. I am not in his head anymore, not as a wife anyway. I am his carer and thats all, he just can no longer see me as he use to. He is selfish, arrogant and uncaring. I understand this is all due to his cancer and if it wasn't for that we would still be living a normal happy loving life. I find the hardest thing is having nobody to talk to and share the problems with. You loose the friends that can't handle the changes and I have children but would not say the things to them that I sometimes feel, they are dealing with it in their own way. Its been the hardest thing to find a support group specific to my needs so I hope you are out there looking for someone to share with.
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