I find this anticipatory grief the hardest because of the unknown of what is going to happen next and when.  I think in the initial stages of the diagnosis we just dropped everything we were doing to wait and see what would happen.  As my wife has undergone treatment we have tried to return to how our life was before she was diagnosed. Yes you have anger and the thought of all your plans for the future disappearing.  The plans of being grandparents together and being able to return the children to their parents after you spoiled them. Thankfully up to now my wife has had no pain if she hadn't felt the lump in her breast life wouldn't have changed.  The thoughts go through your brain of what you will do when they are gone and how you will cope.  Yes it does get depressing. Thankfully I have a couple of close friends who I can talk to at any time who I use as a sounding board.     ... View more