Hi
This is a very difficult situation for you too be in. I don't think going over there will help if he has said not to. Maybe writing a letter to him and perhaps a separate letter to her saying that you want to be part of this journey for him and letting him know you love him. You never know she might be really needing some support through this too so you could support each other and in turn improve the current situation. Hope this helps, take care.
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