I urge both of you to use the palliative care team's service to talk to a support worker for yourselves. That's what they're there for! Yo don't have to do this alone, truly. There are a lot of people who want to help support you emotionally, not just with the practical stuff. It is mentally and physically exhausting going through what you are. I too found the last couple of weeks in particular excruciating. My father was lucky not to have to live through too much suffering. So I can't imagine what it'd be like waiting longer...knowing someone so close to you is going to die, it's just a matter of when. It is not healthy to keep your emotions inside of you. I urge you to find a counsellor through palliative care to talk to about all that you are going through. These situations are meant to be shared! So keep sharing what's inside of you, and the load will lighten, even if slightly. Other things to do are exercise - join some kind of gentle group exercise, or meditation group, or aerobics/dance, or whatever you can do to get movement into your body, and bring some joy back into your life. You are allowed to still enjoy life, all the best xo ... View more

Thanks for sharing your situation with me. I can definitely see some similarities. I'm so glad that you feel understood by the palliative care team. That must be a relief for you somewhat. Feel free to email me in private if you would like to share more of anything with me. At the moment my father is just losing a lot of weight, but he is not in pain - yet. I think it's the waiting game that hurts the most right now. It is very hard but at least he is not in pain. Thanks again. ... View more

Thanks so much, Wally. You've been so helpful in every way. Ta very, very much. I will definitely check them out. Most appreciated. ... View more

Thanks so much Emily. Your message just made my day! I really feel you understand (as have the other posts too thanks everyone else too) and I will definitely read those posts. I can only imagine what you went through. It sounds like you've gone through the worst of it and have learned a great deal as a result. Thanks again, hugs & love back, Kirri ... View more

Thanks Wally, Unfortunately the Eastern Palliative Care team won't take Dad on as he is not showing enough symptoms of illness. But we were referred to a counsellor. She was not helpful to me, but I'm on a waiting list for another one. They don't run face to face support groups for carers which is what I'd really love to be a part of. Thanks so much for your in depth response. It was really lovely of you. Kirri ... View more

Thank you! Yes, have been the strong one ALL my life. Need to fall apart for a change lol. Your comments are greatly appreciated. ... View more