Thanks so much for your reply and sharing your experience. I've thought about supporting him as a friend but I think I'd miss him too much and am scared he will just cut me out... I think at this stage I have to have a good think about where to go from here and how I'll cope with the outbursts if we continue..
Again thanks Emily for your reply
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This is my first post here. I didn't know where else to turn to talk about this and am glad I found this forum.
I'm a single mum with two kids and have been dating a man for 8 months now. Whilst we do love each other, the relationship has always had challenges- he has moved from the country to the city.. Has been in and out of work ( through no fault of his own- he is a hard worker) never had any money. I've had to support him a lot even though he hates this. He is a good man at heart but feels a bit lost in the city. He treats my kids well and I know he loves me a lot. However we have 'broken' up for a few hours- many a time- but our hearts always make their way back to each other. A few months back he had to go to hospital for what we thought was a skin infection- weeks later the diagnosis was brucellosis (a bug that can be treated) ... He is in pain a lot can't really work and has also now started to call me names when we have 'disagreements'.. You pick a degrading name and he has called me it. He always apologises after and says he doesn't know why he is being like this.. And he loves me. The final straw was on the weekend when I'd had enough and after being called pathetic and a f-wit. I left and broke it off- he was heartbroken and so upset and then told me he has cancer . He said he had been so stressed with the tumour diagnosis and the lack of work that that's why he had been so short with me..I know I love him and have to support him in this, as he isn't close to his family. I feel if I don't that he will just disappear back to the country and won't look after himself. However I don't want to be in a relationship full of name calling and struggles and secrets
Any advice or support would be wonderful as he does to want anyone to know about his cancer and I feel alone and stuck.
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Cancer Council NSW would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we live and work.We would also like to pay respect to elders past and present and extend that respect to all other Aboriginal people.