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hi rose , my mum was dignosed 4 years ago with stomach cancer they told us that she would only live 6mths but she is still fighting. I noticed when my mum first got dignosed she just go on with life but as she has got sicker she is a very different person it’s heartbreaking to watch . Enjoy the moments where you mum is still your mum . Make sure that you still include her in the ups and downs in your life because no matter how sick she is she will always want to be there for you.. the hardest thing is the not knowing and when will they pass away try not to focus on what’s could happen because no one really knows just try and live in the moment and create memories because you can only control that not the future or the cancer ..

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I’m so sorry to hear your situation I find the cancer and chemo treatment have altered my mums personality it really does change people and it’s not always in positive meaningful way stressful situation can bring out the worst in people and when they loose sense of control they try anything to get some control back in there life by trying to control and manipulate others . ask yourself would you really be sorry if he died and you had left him when you are so unhappy . No one should have to put up with daily verbal and emotional abuse , yes sometimes people can not control there emotions but if they is a consistent occurrence then this is unfair .You my find that you can support him better if you are living together.

Timebandit84

thanks, Emily your words have helped acknowledge my feelings and they are valid . Because my mum has been sick for so long its hard for others to understand the situation I just don't talk about it. but i will connect here wth other thank you 🙂

Timebandit84

hey everyone, I help care for my mum who had terminal stomach cancer the treatments are starting to not work as well. She is totally miserable and very hard to be around at the mommet. She doesn’t want to accept the reality of the situation and just expects to wake up and feel well again like before she was sick she just can not come to terms with it. I’m so emotionally burnt out from so much emotional support she needs it just feels like it’s never enough and the past years it has gotten worse. I seriously wish sometimes that I could just run away from it. I dread having to call and hear how sad she is and I’m so anxious when I have to go see her and have to listen to how miserable she is. I feel guilty that i just can’t make things better for her and suck it up. She is dying and I’m making it about me ... does anyone who any words of wisdom????

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