My wife has stage 4 oesophagial cancer, mets in liver, spine, lung, and lymph nodes around the pancreas, also in hips & shoulder. Very dire prognosis (less than 12 months). She was diagnosed end of July 2015 after 5 months of thinking it was just reflux and being treated with the wrong stuff.. The news shook us like a tsunami. You go through all the emotional states (is it grief?). The first week is pure shock, like hoping that you will wake up from the awful nightmare but you don't. Then next week still shock, sadness, denial etc. At the end of the first month of the diagnosis, i'd say we are accepting of the situation now. It is bad but we are dealing with it. My heart goes out to everyone going through similar situation. My wife has lost 30kg and counting but with Up&Go's (liquid breakfasts), I believe we may be putting the breaks on the weightloss now. Also don't be afraid of chemo. My wife had a big anxiety attack the morning of first chemo, but by the end of the day we were on cloud 9. Take care.. ... View more