February 2009
Mihalo, Even tho Im not the one who is sick, as you said its happening to me too. I feel it as much as he does and I would take it away if I could. This sounds corny and contrite but his pain is mine. I have know idea how to cope with all of this. Its just too overwhelming let alone go to work full time, run a household, speak to people. pay bills and general day to day life. Thanks so so much for answering me. Mary
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February 2009
I will tell him over and over that I love him. This is all so frightening.
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February 2009
Thank you very much Sharon for writing back to me. I really appreciate it. And thanks for the great info. Mary
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February 2009
Well here I am. I need to tell someone out there in this big brown land of ours with so much going on at the moment. Last week I was thinking about what tiles I wanted for my kitchen and this week Im on this website. The man I love has had not good news. I have never been affected by cancer with someone I love until now. I would climb the highest mountain, swim the deepest ocean, walk the thousand miles through the scorching desert and never have a second thought. Here I am with the most dreadful news. This journey that is just beginning. We have hardly taken the first couple of steps in this cancer journey. I think, if he lets me, if he is willing to have me along for the journey, I will be there every step of the way. Except Ive never done this before. I dont know what to do. Whats too much or too little. Whats overbearing or not enough. Do I tell him I am devestated. That I cant think of anything else or do I just be so positive. But is that practical?? Do I tell him whats on my mind, do I tell him my fears. Its not my body going through this. Please someone tell me how to be with the most aussie of guys. The guy who says everything will be fine or I dont want to talk about it. The guy who is the epitome of an australian male. He knows I love him with all my heart. What do I do? Mary
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February 2009
Hi Gypsy, This is my first time on this site and I felt compelled to register so I can tell you that you are not alone and my heart goes out to you. I am really worried about the man in my life as things arent looking all that good. He tends to be very distant at times normally and sometimes blocks me out. We are at the very beginning of this journey and so I am very new to being in a carers role. I have never been before and this is the first time cancer has touched my life. I am scared that he will block me out as he tends to and he wont let me help him in different ways. He knows I am very concerned but I have kept how I truly feel - im a train wreck - to myself. It has been on my mind 24/7 since he told me last week. So I just wanted to let you know that there is someone here who is also experiencing her partner being distant. I am going to try and just be myself who he knows so well. I'll keep quiet when I need to and speak up when I feel I need to. He hates fuss and carrying on so I'll just get on with things. He knows I love him with all my heart and he does me. Please know that people care. Mary
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