Hi all, I’m 22 years old and my mum was diagnosed with Stage 4 Metastatic Cancer just before my 21st in 2015, she was diagnosed with breast cancer that has moved through to her bones. In 2015 she started radiation which made her really sick, we then had about 2 rounds of chemo which started to make a difference, she got better! Throughout 2015 my father was caught having an affair and up and left with a much younger person after 35+ years being with my mum to which he has been nothing short of difficult towards my mum, sister and myself. Unfortunately, my mum and dad are partners in a villa they brought in Bali (where he found his wife) and has been withholding all the profits of the money the villas has been making, my dad has been absolutely horrible throughout this whole process and it isn’t making anything any easier on the whole situation. With all this happening it seems to be so much pressure and stress on my poor mum when this isn’t something she should even be worrying about. We have spoken to lawyers and have taken little steps of action but then have dropped it due to mum’s medical health being more important. Every 3 weeks she has treatment which has been going great, mum looks healthier than ever and is happier than ive ever seen. Over Christmas 2016 she found a lump in her breast with an appointment with the hospital it has turned out her treatment has stopped working and her cancer has started growing again, tomorrow she has scans and test to figure out the next step to take. With all this happening I work a full-time job, and live with my mum – I have a sister who lives out of home with her partner and has been an absolute gem throughout the whole time of this horrible situation as she is very flexible with her working hours and can attend all appointments with my mum. But this has put so much stress on myself, I feel like I’m slipping through to cracks of not being able to attend all appointments like I should be, I feel like I’m letting work down by asking to have days off to be at appointments and some days I’m just a down right mess while at work to the point they send me home. I have had my HR manager try to get me to speak with a councillor but I don’t want to speak to someone who’s studied to listen not actually been through what I and my family have and are going through. It’s just a really sucky situation and it seems to just knock me down every time I feel like I’ve gotten up, after everything my mum, sister and I have been through over the past year I just feel like I haven’t caught a break and it’s really taking it’s toll.
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