Dear Gab. Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I have received your private message thank you. I like your suggestion to think of the word hopeful rather than the word positive. Positive is such a loaded word and carries with it such a weight of expectations that you'll always be up that you should never be down (and when you are you feel guilty) whereas hopeful is gentler and more realistic. You're right about the different responses of family members. My sister and her husband are a tight knit support group of 2. No negatives ever seen there. Same with my brother. My dad worries but he draws strength from my sister. Whereas as I am the one with the anxiety disorder I'm the one who is constantly worrying, imagining the worst and feeling guilty for letting the side down. Always being told I have to be "up" for my sister no negative vibes allowed. I will continue to use the services of my psychiatrist treating my disorder to develop hopeful strategies for coping myself and therefore being better placed to be there for my sister. Thanks again
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