My 71 year old dad has been diagnosed with mestatic melanoma in late Sept (3 brain tumors and has spread to lymph nodes) he's had radiation and about to start chemo Dr have said that he may only have months but cannot say for sure. I'm very torn at the moment cause I want to spend time with him and care for him which I am doing but trying to juggle my own family,work and staying with dad most nights dad was diagnosed 2 days before I was meant to start my new job and my work have been fantastic. Dad needs 24 hour care due to his memory loss etc. Which i can see him deteriorating weekly. I'm not sure if I should talk to work about Stepping down or cutting back my hours. I'm worried financially how we will cope. Has anyone been through this situation  and how did they know when it was right to take a leave of absence  to be the sole carer . ... View more