Hi Everyone.   Gee, I am going to sttuggle to write this without bursting in to tears.     My partner has been battling colon cancer these last two years. Three weeks ago he found out that it had spread to his spleen. He is 54.  His chemo, because of the metastasis, has dramarically increased. It is affecting him terribly. Because of this, yesterday, he told me that he wanted us to seperate, that he wanted to be alone.  I love him so much and told him that I refuse to accept this.  He mentioned things like being a burden and asking me what kind of relationship is this as we hardly see each other (we live separately). I feel so strongly that I must be here for him, not accept his decision and stay committed to him. He has a lot going on in his life including young children and an upcoming stressful court appearance with his ex.   He said that he is feeling incredible pressure and just wants to give everything away and that he is living hour to hour. Seems as though I am the first casuality of this. I know it is depression, inability to cope with everything, a degree of self pity and a desire not to drag me in to it any further, as he feels he cannot be who he believes he needs to be for me in this relationship.  I, on the other hand, am absolutely crushed by his decision. He may very well go in to remission and he said that if he were not sick, we would be together. He says he loves me but he thinks that this  (the cancer) will never go away.   What do I do?  My gut tells me to fight this and wait for him to feel better no matter how long it takes. What do others think? I know at the end of the day that I must make the right decision for me though I am also desirous of someone to tell me what I am wanting to do 'is right'. Weird, I know. Any advice appreciated.   ... View more