Hi arvs 525   I can empathise with you, as I am in a very similar situation.  My husband was diagnosed with throat cancer about 6 weeks ago, and has just started chemo and radiation treatment, which will go for 7 weeks.     I booked a holiday to New Zealand with some friends about 8 months ago, and we are booked to fly out the week before hubby's treatment ends.   My daughter lives on the same property as us (in a separate house) and has told me that she will take care of him while I am away, and that I must go as I will not get the opportunity again.    Hubby also says that I should go, but I'm not convinced that he really feels that way.   I am worried that he will be really sick by the time I go and I don't want to put that burden on my daughter, who has a family of her own.     I also don't want to go on holiday and feel guilty the entire time.   If I wasn't in the same position, I would be looking at your situation rationally and telling you to go, but it is quite different when you look at things emotionally.   If it is of any help to you, I spoke to the Radiation Nurse and the Social Worker at the hospital about this, and both of them told me to go and enjoy my holiday.   And that hubby would be OK as long as someone was close by. ... View more