Dear Dee, I joined this forum with interest to see if there is anything even very little that can help me and my husband deal with my father-in-law's stage 4 metastatic bowel/liver cancer. I take solace in reaching to others not the other way around. I have some advice that I hope might be valuable. I notice that people are writing a recount of their story. Our life is always about our story, what it was, what it is and what it will be and what we hope it will be. We live in hope that our future story will play out the way we dream it to be but our future stories are not written yet. Where our story will take us is often not in our control. So I cope best knowing that we are now on this unwritten journey but I will be able to write some of the story now and all of it later. The only part I can write is how smooth the journey is helping my father-in-law. This is my job now-I'm writing part of the story for him and our loved ones. xx ... View more