Hi Jennifer, I am really sorry to hear about your husband. This is horrible news. My dad was given similar news 6 weeks ago after living for 12 months with a stage IV bowel cancer diagnosis. He is 65 and I'm 30. I am now caring for him full time. There's not much anyone can say in this situation, but I want to offer some words of advice that have helped me in the past few weeks. Firstly - there will be moments of beauty. It's not over yet. There will be days where things will seem completely normal. Make sure you seize those days with both hands and enjoy every second of them. Every day will be different and some days will be good ones. On the bad days, cry as much as you want. I like to drive away in my car and just scream. Then I pick myself up and get back to it. Secondly - make sure you are accessing all the help you can get. You may need to do your own research as the doctor will not always tell you what is available. Depending on where you live there's likely an amazing palliative care support team available to you. We have nurses that come every day, that is a completely free service. Some days we don't need them, but they come anyway. And they are not just for your husband but for you too. Nobody is alone in cancer. It's happening to both of you, but know there is support around you and that everything will be ok. Just take this time to love him as much as you can. I wish you all the best ❤️
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