Hi Jaykay, i hope things are going okay on your journey. I was recently talking to a psychologist about my feelings of selfishness and she said whenever you feel like you want to refer to yourself as selfish, change it to self care. I found this really interesting and it’s true. I don’t think you’ve been selfish at all, everyone deserves self care.  Try to remember to take care of yourself however you need - without feeling bad about it.  ... View more

Hi there, Believe it or not I’m going to disagree with the other comments. I’m American but Ive been living in Melbourne for nine years and my mom was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in February and despite not being there full time, I go back every couple of months to spend time and help out. I don’t have permanent residency so I don’t have a luxury of being able to leave for a while and be able to come back. It’s a pretty complicated situation begin far away from a sick parent and it does involve a lot of guilt. If you aren’t able to travel back often, at least try to Skype as much as possible. I’d be happy to connect with you off of this if you’d like to chat more. Take care, Lara  ... View more