Thanks for your kind repies. My mum has now move under the care of the palliative team and is being admitted next week for symptom control that will then be take over at home by the local visiting pall care team. That should take some pressure off my Dad and my Mum, I hope. They do however remain resistent to efforts to help them but I have kind of come to terms with that over the last couple of weeks, and also worked on finding support for myself with friends and others. In the meantime, yesterday my husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer following an FOBT test and colonoscopy so we are off on another roller coaster, seeing the surgeon tomorrow and hoping it hasn't spread. It all seems to happen at once with several other friends in hospital or having chemo for various types of cancer. So I will be concentrating on him for the time being, and then see what happens next! ... View more