Hi Kate, it's a very personal decision whether to tell anyone or not and who to tell and it does change over time. Partners of people with cancer can have a rough time and yours may well appreciate some support, he may be able to find a local support group or he might just like to have a chat to someone, maybe simply  talk to him about it, good luck Kate ......David  oh, and ps. your certainly not alone in the way you reacted to your news, i think nearly any reaction to a cancer diagnosis is probably 'normal' , really there are no normals and not normals , simply trust your own journey and feelings. .....d ... View more