JessLobey I can remember how hard it was for me at 16 years of age seeing my Father fading from lung cancer, he was diagnosed on my birthday and died 2 months later,I still regret the time not spent  with him and helping my mum extra ,my feelings were of being torn apart while watching his decline it was very hard,so I do understand where you are coming from with how it affects and hurts you     Your grandmother would definitely appreciate and love  having you around her as she faces what is left of her life if you can spend the extra time good but don’t feel guilty if you can’t we are all wired differently ,it is not up to you to step up for others at this time it is an individual decision,years ago I was seriously ill and close to the end ,my grandchildren and my daughter moved in with us to help out,it was a real comfort to have them around,I got well and they are still living here helping my wife and I, but our circumstances are very different to what you are facing ,my wife has a degenerative condition and I need help with her,unfortunately watching a loved one slowly fade away is very hard but that’s what happens in life ,your decision has to be made by you and no one else concerning your grandmothers situation.You are not shirking your responsibility it’s a terrible time for all concerned. Best wishes  kj ... View more