Unfortunately hindsight is a wonderful thing,it would be hard to accept wearing those incontinence underwear,especially with the difficulties and discomfort you are experiencing.   Possibly your son has taken your words very personal and out of context but at this moment in time,reach out and explain the love and feelings you have for them all, don’t let it go on like it is,and have a wedge driven between you both ,at this very difficult time in you want your family beside you.     When making decisions about quality of life versus quantity ,we have to respect the patients decision they  have the final say.   Have you had a chat to your GP about your health and feelings,I had a few chats to mine during my treatment ,I got some good advice to help me cope. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you,I just took it one day at a time. ... View more