Hi Tom   I am sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. My brother is in his last days, however we have been saying that for 2 weeks now, which is wonderful to have him longer than the hospital first thought.   I already feel the guilt of having to move on so fast.  I'm currently moving house and looking for work in my new area, while my brother and my family live interstate.   Being down with them for the past 2 weeks, I also felt the pain of my parents grief and know the hardest part is yet to come.   Thank you for sharing your story, it is a horrible thing that I wish we didn't share in common, but I've been reading the forums off and on through all of this and it has helped.   Sending you love and comfort. ... View more

Hello Ben.  Cath here.   My son has advancer stage four bowel cancer and it's terrible but I want to congratulate you for doing what you are for your dear dad.  When my dad developed cancer my siblings and I took turns to live at his house and care for him.  We did it in pairs ( sometimes siblings or our partners etc).  In the end two were needed to help Dad toileting, washing etc. .   In the end Dad died in his own home with us with him.   You are doing an amazing job.   Be clear with the palliative care nurses re what you need.  The local chemist may also be very helpful and you could perhaps go and see your dad's doctor ( take a list) with questions.   Your dad is very lucky to have you.  Those nights can be lonely and frightening when dealing with what you are.   At the least, knowing there are others out there who understand and care for what you are going through, might, I hope, help a little.   PS.  Try to have a nap during the day when your dad sleeps or you will wear yourself out.   Cath ... View more