Hi Rose, Firstly, I am very sorry to read about your mum.  My father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer yesterday. His has spread to his liver too.. and they are looking to do chemo as well (maybe if his liver is ok) I too see he is deteriorating quickly since finding out. Maybe we can help each other cope? because I sure as hell don't know where to go from here.  So much uncertainity and sadness and pain.  Anyway.. I'm not sure my reply is helpful, but I want you to know you are not alone and its ok not to feel ok because I don't feel ok and its all not ok. OK!   I saw a nice quote on a school noticeboard driving to work the other day - I hope it helps you some how "Life is tough, but so are you"  ... View more