Tryin to deal with the news. My mil was told in mid January this yr that her breast cancer (which she has double  mastectomy in 2015/16 and chemo etc) that Metastase to her brain. Approx a week later she stated radiotherapy and then chemo. Like most treatments she had side effects which meant she ended up in hospital 3 weeks dehydrated due to being unable to hold anything down. After being in hospital for about a week, we found out she had a kidney and lung infection, and then 3 days later that phone call you don’t want. My fil rang to say they had been told days,weeks maybe a mth or 2. My husband and son flew to be with her. While they were there, and trying to talk to drs, they found that she had trouble getting out of bed, and there was talk re her moving to a nursing home as home care not best for her. A few days later, it was found that she was having trouble breathing, with possible fluid on lungs. They weren’t able to do scan with dye as her kidneys weren’t coping, the creatinine levels were very high. Last Wednesday, they noticed stomach was swollen due to fluid being present and Thursday her stomach was drained. She had been on and off oxygen. There was talk about moving her to private hospital, and hopefully into a private room (currently public hospital, share ward) but today we have been told that won’t be happening.  They have confirmed that the cancer has spread to lungs and stomach, it has been labelled aggressive with weeks or a few months given.  Now we live interstate and I have teen children ,with my youngest doing her final yr at school ( her atar ), and a husband who feels like he has let his parents down by moving interstate to advance his career, to provide for his family.  I lost my father 12yrs ago to cancer, and my mum is in remission from breast cancer, so cancer isn’t a stranger to this family. But I am tryin to be strong, to be the support to all but I just don’t know what else I can do.  Any help, words etc will be great appreciated..  ... View more