This is just me, but my needs from my partner change daily, hourly and sometimes even by the minute.
I find I am getting more from the cancer community than from hiim, but when I melt down, I need for him to HEAR me, not just say you will be ok. He can't say that, no one can. I need for him to give me space, I need him to hug me, I would really love it if he could get involved, but I doubt he ever will. His way of helping is to take the kids and give me space. I cry when he is laughing with the kids and wonder if I will see them grow up, but I can't let my self dwell, or I wouldn't get up.
The best thing you can do is respond to his emotions and educate yourself about what is happening. There are support groups for careres too and that would be a powerful thing for you too. If you are in the Sunshine Coast, Bloomhill at Buderim is worth its weight in gold.
Best of luck and health for both of you.
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I am 41, have been through lumpectomy and radiation for Tubular, stage 1, er and pr +ve, HER2 neg, node negative cancer.
I have two boys under 6 and I so messed up in my head in regards to the next decision of doing hormone therapy or not.
Anyone been there and done that? The side effects are such a great concern and I wonder for tubular cancer if its really worth it for me. I don't want to screw up, I want to be here for my kids graduations and weddings and grandkids.
I would love advice, thoughts or links to websites. I have looked at so much online and most relates to post menopause so not relavent to me.
Thanks in advance. My drs are pretty much all divided.
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