Suncatcher...yes advise the doctor even if it makes her angry.  I think as hard as it is at this point we have to remove ourselves from their emotions, wanting to keep them happy and just keep them safe.  My spouse has stage 4 prostate cancer that is hormone resistant.  He's angry and stressed.  He denied any anxiety to the doctor and I all but fell off my chair.  Do or die I thought and I shook my head that he was okay.  That lead to a good medication that worked until his chemo failed.  Now he's mad at the world and feels safe being angry with me..alternating with withdrawing.  We can't feel what they do but we're hurt and scared too.  It's hard to watch anyone give up but we are not in control of them or the disease.  We too have to live our life and not ride their highs and lows.  With all due respect not unlike living with a toddler coming to grips with their emotions.  Hugs to all cancer victims and their caregivers.  ... View more