Background: So, we are going to the doctor tomorrow to see if my husband has cancer and the what surgery he will need. He has sinonasal papilloma, I believe. His mother died of cancer in her lungs, brain, lymph node... so I can understand the fact when he gets really mad and blows up.    He will start cussing at my brothers who we are raising (another stress) and then turn to me and start cussing me out and telling me what I’m doing wrong and that I act like a saint and I can’t be a mother & that I don’t put him before anyone else.... and whatever else comes up.    Earlier this week, he started cussing my brother (for the second time) and I told him to stop so that anger redirected to me... I got up and decided to just leave the room and go take a shower. Not a good idea apparently... so I try to shut the bathroom door and In the mix of our heated convo he says “fuck you & you’re a lying motherfucker” and so I had enough and told him to get out.    To sum it up... he didn’t leave he wanted me to help get his things. I told him no.    Anyway, with all the stress we have in our life I just keep thinking to myself... do I want to spend the rest of my life with a man who will disrespect and cuss me and the kids out.    Then... I’m at a loss because he is upset that he may have cancer and thought of that alone is just scary. But then I don’t want to give emotional abuse any kind of excuse...    I just don’t know what to do...    Any advice? ... View more