Hi Wendy, Im sorry to hear about your partner. My name is Megan and I am with the Oral Cancer Foundation. We are a non-profit based out of California but our website has tons of information on oral cancer that you and your partner can benefit from. I would also encourage you to visit our survivor/patient forum. http://oralcancersupport.org/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=cfrm here, you and your partner can create a login name and talk with thousands of survivors and patients who have been and are going through the same thing right now. If you post a topic or question I guarantee you will receive an answer within minutes. You can also visit our website here: www.oralcancer.org Please feel free to contact me directly if you have any questions. cannon@oralcancerfoundation.org No-one has to go through this alone, and we are here to help. I wish you and your partner the best. ... View more