Hi there, i am wondering if anyone is feeling ashamed or embarrassed by being diagnosed with cancer. I sure did. Doctors told me that I could continue to work through the chemo treatments and that gave me hope but I didn’t want to be treated differently at work or home and kept my diagnosis very quiet. I did not want my business to be affected, I didn’t want my daughter to be embarrassed of my bald no eyelashes no eyebrow look. (She is 7 yrs old and doesn’t get the transformation). I hear doctors telling me that eventually my cancer tumor will be long forgotten and that they trust I will get better but in the meantime, how do I hold on to my future if I have to go through this bastard process? And so I thought to keep it a secret so I can bounce back without much effect. I don’t want people to feel sorry for me so I have been masking myself behind a wig, makeup and a fake smile so that I can continue “being” normal but it feels like I am putting on a costume and I don’t feel authentic. I don’t want my clients to think that they cannot trust me with work because I am sick and I am a liability. I love my job and it brings me joy. I am not enjoying the special attention due to cancer. I wish life with cancer could continue to be normal but I feel that society puts us on a petty shelf. I know people care and my friends and family love me. My clients and business associates want me to get better and they are all good people but for me a normal daily life (aside from the diagnosis treatments) is what would give me a sense of purpose. Something to help me get my mind away from cancer. I would love to hear your stories about how your spirit feels and how cancer has affected your character. I can find information on-line about diet, sideffects, Self healing, holistic healing, meditation, how to do look good and feel good, and how to deal with diagnosis but nothing about how to deal with the shock to our innerspirit and our character. Cancer is such a shock and the transformation is inevitable. This is not just about looks, it is more about our character, our spirit and the personality adjustment. I have been seeing a therapist to help me with my process and I highly recommended to all. This is just me being curious about other people’s stories. Much love to all and look forward to finding inspiration from your stories. xo LG
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Hi Locky, When I found out about my diagnosis, It also shook my world and after a good long cry, I decided that Cancer wasn’t going to take the best of me (my happy spirit). Nearly every morning I find a guided meditation on youtube about being positive and it has helped. I also put together a playlist of my favourite uplifting songs that I love and I listen to it every day while I cook or get ready. Big hug 💕
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Hi Lorna, i share your thoughths about not joining a cancer group and here I am joining just to answer you. You have inspired me to join and I hope this shows how you can continue to inspire people today and everyday regardless of your medical diagnosis. My mother passed from Breast cancer just 3 years ago and I was diagnosed earlier this year. It broke my heart mainly because I finally see this journey with my own eyes and I don’t have her around to help me through it. I wish I could tell my mom that I never understood her pain and fear but now I do. I have a young daughter, my family and friends are overseas and I too feel very alone. Keeping myself busy has been helpful I’ve been writing, painting, and finding creative ways to stay hopeful. I kept my diagnosis a secret from social media but told my closest friends and relatives. They understand how difficult the diagnosis was for me but they cheer me up and check up on me all the time and it feels good to feel love and compassion from others in a private way. I feel for you. Enjoy every day even if it means staying in your pjs. That’s what I’m planning on doing all day today. Big hug xo
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Cancer Council NSW would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we live and work.We would also like to pay respect to elders past and present and extend that respect to all other Aboriginal people.