@writemyessay wrote: she has not began any other treatments or procedures yet, but this anger!! I say to her, it's okay to be angry at cancer, but my goodness don't let it push you back to the reckless person that just doesn't give a dam* if you hurt the people who love you. risking her own life, and the lives of others by drinking on top of these anxiety meds, and driving. Not coming home to rather be at a doper house. (this hurts me of course) but then to ask me "do I want her to move out ?" because I am upset.   This scares me so much for her. I don't understand if the mind , perhaps due to previous destructive behavior, just resorts back to it's old patterns of thinking that life is anything less than precious.   Do I notify the doctor that she is drinking on top of these anxiety meds, and it's not safe? I completely understand your fear and anxiety. My wife was diagnosed with melanoma, when she was pregnant, and it was a nightmare for us. She was anglry all the time, and to crown it all, she had nausea. But we tried to calm down using this counting method: Counting to 10 and Beyond. I guess it saved us, because I don't know what could have happened to our family, if we continued like that.   ... View more