Hi...im new here like many. Ive been caring for my partner of 8 years for nearly 3 months now. He was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic melanoma. Hes 34 and it has come like a torrential storm thats not easing up. He doesn't leave the house, he mopes around the house making everyone anxious ( 1 have 4 children 14-5), he moans about absolutely everything and the way he talks to me and belittles me is so hurtful. I know he has cancer but yet at every chance he gets he reminds me. Im 31 and ive already lost my eldest childrens dad a few years ago and now im facing the prospect of losing another and for even thinking that i feel terrible guilt. Im doing everything i can to appease this man make him comfortable and bring up 4 children...i feel stressed and like a complete failure. Ive tryed getting him to go to a doctor for help but he point blank refuses...how can you help someone who wont help their selves? He just hides away from the world and everyone in it because he doesnt wanna be at looked at differently. How can i persuade him he needs counselling without sounding like im telling him something else is wrong with him? Sorry for the essay just couldnt stop typing once id started.
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