Hi Debbie2,   Feeling guilty and frustrated is absolutely expected and a normal response to such events, emotions tend to run high especially when there are others individuals affected. I’m happy to hear that your partner is in remission that is fantastic news.   Have you sat down with your partner and discussed these issues at length - Informed him how his actions are affecting others? Maybe a councilor could act as a third party media?   Cancer  and it’s treatment can change a way someone’s perceives themselves and thus affects their self-esteem as well. It’s common to feel less confident about who you are and what you can do, add to the mix the consist fear of the future and what that may bring to your loved ones. Helpless breeds frustration. It's quite an stressful recipe.   But either way communication is the key.     May I recommend the following link? Around page 40 might be helpful.   https://www.mylifehouse.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/mutiple_myeloma.pdf   Please let me know how it goes? ... View more