Hello, I'm 31, a mother of two and married. I'm not sure what I want to write/ask but found myself here after having a meltdown in front of my 12 year old daughter tonight. Everything just got a bit much and broke down in front of her. Guess I'll tell my story which will hopefully help me vent and feel better.   I finished my treatment at RBWH (1000km from home) Dec 2018. I don't have family in AU so my husband had to continue working while I had treatment in Brisbane. We flew my mother over to help look after the kids for a few months while I was away as my husband works away week on week off. This also meant we inherited her bills but we had no other option so were happy to do it. I was okay having my treatment alone as im generally a strong person. My husband came to visit a couple of times when he could on days off as well as friends occasionally. Treatment ended a couple of days before Christmas which was great as i made it home just in time to be with my family for Christmas.   About a week after I got home my employer asked when I'd be returning to work (they'd been left in the deep end with my sudden sick leave). Almost at the same time my husband was made redundant meaning we no longer had any income for our household and because we're kiwi's we weren't entitled to help from centrelink. So i did what any other wife/mother would do. I returned to work one week later. I told everyone I was fine and went back full time as if nothing had happened. I'm a positive person and not one to dwell on things or express my emotions much. In fact I don't even admit to myself most of the time when I'm not okay. I'm guilty of "brushing things off" I guess. I returned to work to a complete mess. It was no one's fault, but it meant I walked back into a stressful work load. I did my best to work through the back log. I was juggling work/home/family life relatively fine but did have a "crazy Mandy" day where I had a meltdown at work roughly 3 months in and had to go home for the day as couldn't pull myself together again. To this day I don't specifically know what set me off. We're a small team of 5 in my work place and all males except me. They were a bit shocked and didn't know how to address my moment of madness. I went back to work the next day and pretended that nothing had happened.   Since then I've done my best to juggle everything in between medical appointments/procedures, work, home life, kids sport, social engagements etc. I've had a couple of close friends go thorough marriage break ups so I've done my best to be there for them too. Not often do I talk about my own issues. Not because no one asks, but because I don't open up much when it comes to myself. I normally just say I'm doing fine etc. I often get comments on how well I'm doing but deep down I think I've been in denial and putting on a front. But I have noticed I'm not coping as well as I used to. When life/Work gets hectic I often feel like I'm about to explode and cry. And I'm not an emotional person so that upsets me even more as i feel silly. My hubby is lucky to see me cry once a year. I only cried once in front of him during my diagnosis and treatment because i didnt want to worry him.   But if I'm completely honest I don't think I'm coping. Im just so exhausted all the time and stressed. No one sees the cracks but i can feel them and they're getting worse. Ive been hanging in at work as I'm entitled to long service leave in Oct but I honestly don't know if I can hang in that long. I need a break and I feel selfish to admit that to anyone because I'm 12 months post treatment NED. I feel like I got sick, went away, had treatment and then jumped straight back into a hectic life. I'm only young so probably being silly, but I just don't know what's going on with me. I feel like I just need a month to reset. Im unhappy in my job and feel like im not being the best mother because I have no energy these days. Its difficult to cope on the weeks my husband is away (he got another job 7/7) and i dont know how to admit this to him or my friends/family as dont want people fussing if they know im struggling. I think everything is just catching up with me. I haven't even mentioned my health worries, but I'm sure you all know how I'm feeling in that area...   Sorry about the long post, just realised how long it is.   Is there anyone else who has been feeling this way? I still don't even know what my problem is but here I am...   ... View more